Like any person who subscribes to monogamy, I had to give up a few things—and people—when I got coupled up. But as a bisexual woman, I also had to give up whole parts of myself, not because my husband expected it, but because I expect it of myself. And, frankly, I wanted to. No one’s every thrilled me like he does, and now I’m just not interested in sharing my intimate self with anyone else.Read More
Early on in my relationship, the “have you been tested lately/can we stop using these stupid condoms already” talk naturally led to the subject of past partners, specifically how many. This made me nervous being that I was an early bloomer and had a feeling my Catholic-raised boyfriend had gotten started a little later in life.Read More
We’ve had a lot of media coverage for our Vesper Vibrator Necklace this month, with a range of reactions that makes it quite clear we’ve touched on something provocative. I want to give the Cravings community a bit of a behind the scenes peek into my thoughts about this product from an aesthetic, functional and emotional point of view, especially since Vesper is all about the interplay between our public and private selves.
As a friend of mine teasingly pointed out, “Ti, I think you’ve nailed it.” Personally as a designer, I am drawn to distilled and symbolic forms, forms that are simple to understand yet open for interpretations. In this case I arrived at the iconic look of a nail from several factors: material choice, technical constraints and the aesthetic I wanted to evoke. As a designer I do not start my process with a look in mind, but rather a holistic understanding of the product.
I deeply appreciate high-quality materials such as 316 stainless steel from a visual and tactile point of view. I chose this material for its longevity, visual purity and quality — it will not rust, tarnish or change color. It is also a material that is easy to clean, which makes it ideal for this application. Functionally, creating a rechargeable super slim compact vibrator that was both highly functional and could be worn unobtrusively was not an easy task. Luckily because we have engineering and advanced prototyping under our roof, we were able to innovate to employ both a high-strength motor and long-lasting battery in an extremely compact form factor.
Visually, Vesper's iconic shape will appeal to some more than others, as with any fashion object. The nail projects a balance of edgy and symbolic motifs that can be open to interpretation. To me, it is a traditionally masculine and raw symbol that I am reinventing as an elegant instrument of pleasure.
On a deeper level, I think masturbation has been taboo for women for too long and this is my way to publicly say it is okay in a fashionable way. That said, it’s an individual choice if you want to wear it publicly or not. Vesper is designed so that the chain is removable, so if you prefer to leave this by your bedside, you'll find it equally functional in private and public, with or without the chain.
We have our first batch of Vespers in production this week. We'll put them through our rigorous quality checks, charge them up, and get them shipped out very soon. Please feel free to drop a line to let us know what you think.
I know he's drunk when he starts reading me poetry. John Koethe, Wisława Szymborska. From there it's only a skip to Hegel or Proust — poetry through prose and philosophy, he says — and my eyes glaze over. They cling to the periphery, admiring the smoke coming from his nostrils as he exhales.Read More
We’ve had a busy few weeks at Crave HQ, and are delighted to share another sexy new pre-release with our Cravings community.
We’ve long wanted to create an elegant-yet-functional wearable vibrator that is equally satisfying for adornment and arousal. In that spirit we created Vesper — a sleek slim vibrator pendant in three gorgeous finishes — to satisfy this craving.Read More
These high, thin, spiked heels are hot. They’re sexy. For some, they’re a symbol of female power — and lately — even male power. If you haven’t seen any videos featuring street jazz choreographer Yanis Marshall and “his boys” rockin’ it out in stilettos to the likes of The Spice Girls or Beyonce, well, you should. They’re awe-inspiring. And strange. And strangely hot.
My boyfriend would probably call me an exhibitionist as he’s always telling me to stop walking around naked in daylight with the blinds half open.
“What if somebody sees?” he says.
“So what if they do?” I say.Read More
I have a complicated history with sex. I’ve engaged in it, have sought it out, and have talked about it at length with friends, but my relationship with it is shaky. I wish I could say I was like Samantha Jones, and had sex “like a man”. I even wish I could say I thought of sex as being very special, and only worth sharing with those you love. I wish I knew where I even stood on the matter.Read More
As I watched Mexico and Cameroon take the field in their first match of the World Cup, all I could think is, “Those poor guys with their blue balls.” And I'm not talking about the soccer balls.