How do you connect to your sexual pleasure when you grow up in the most rigorously stringent part of the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community, where women are required to cover their bodies from collarbone to toes at all times, and dating is generally limited to a single meeting, sometimes two, with potential husbands?Read More
As you might imagine, working at Crave often involves travel with at least a few dozen vibrators. For many people, this would be a nightmare scenario. The TSA officer reaches into your bag and pulls out your favorite purple vibrator. He lets it dangle from two fingers and raises his eyebrows. “And what is this?” he asks, loud enough that everyone around you turns to see what he’s holding. You turn red, and the surrounding crowd bursts into cruel laughter.Read More
Winter can be a tough time to feel sexy, especially when you're stuffed into a black bubble coat running to get the train in the sleet and "wintry mix" (do any of us know exactly what that means, even the meteorologist?). But a new year means new resolutions, and winter can be as sexy a time as any, especially snuggled up inside.Read More
People often ask what inspires me, and lately, I am thrilled to see fantastic women entrepreneurs who are making products in a way that contributes to making the world a better place (especially for women and girls!) Here are a few notables:Read More
Dandy Dillinger is a burlesque performer and pastry chef living in New York. She creates gorgeous confections at renowned burlesque venue Duane Park by day, and kittens on its stage by night.
What came first, pastry or burlesque?
Pastry definitely came first. I went to pastry school in 2007, and graduated in 2008. I had always gone to burlesque shows, and I always called myself a burlesque groupie. My old restaurant was one block up from the original Duane Park. So every Friday I’d go to Duane Park for years. And then I used to tell (Duane Park owners) Billy and Marisa, “I’m going to do this; I’m going to dance.” And then years and years went by and I never did it. And then finally one day after a breakup, and work was shitty, I was like, “I’m just going to take classes, because if I don’t do it now, I’m never going to do it.”
Are there commonalities between cuisine and burlesque?
Both can be equally sensual. With both, you’re teasing and tempting, whether with smells, flavors, or memories. Describing food, people can get just as aroused or into what you’re talking about as with burlesque, because it’s just like a tease.
What food gets you in the mood?
Definitely my chocolate cake is probably one of the best things I’ve ever eaten. It’s almost like a fudge flourless cake, but it’s not overly rich. It’s creamy and light and the buttercream is really good. It’s sour cream-based chocolate cake and I do a cross between a traditional Swiss meringue and a sugar buttercream frosting. If food is good enough, it could get anyone in the mood.
Any other favorite desserts?
I love ice cream, all kinds. The other day I had this mint chip affogato with espresso and a shot of fernet. I was drinking out of the bowl. Fernet Branca is a digestif that tastes almost like a Ricola, it has a mint licorice-y flavor to it and pairs well with chocolate and mint. With the espresso it really heightened the flavor. With the affogato, the alcohol was poured right into it.
Creativity, experimentation and openness are things you have to have in burlesque, cooking, and sex alike to keep things fresh.
Me doing things I’m not supposed to do is what turns me on and gets me going. We say “Let’s do it anyway.” Now that my partner and I are in this safe committed relationship, we have to find a balance of how to keep it forbidden.
Can culinary experiences open up sensuality in other realms?
Especially with desserts, a lot of people offer dessert tastings. Have a cocktail or a nice glass of wine and have the chef choose so that you can experiment with your palate. I always like to live by “You never know unless you try.”
There’s a lot of romance and seduction in food. Does food belong in the bedroom?
I don’t think I would only because I appreciate both so much. We can have our dessert, then our sex.
What do you think of the women’s sex positive community?
It was always forbidden and taboo for women to even talk about sex. Now that it’s more liberated and open, it’s only good. Masters of Sex shows a time when it was hard for women to be open. With burlesque, we’re taking control of sex and have control over exactly what the audience sees and feels. We reveal little by little, so we choose. In this community, it’s all shapes, sizes, colors – anyone can be sexy. Again, we’re the ones who are telling you, and showing you, what is sexy and can be sexy.
It’s that confidence too. You could have that girl up there with the perfect body who goes up there and has nothing to show. Your body is the instrument, so when you’re moving to music, you have to show that emotion and feeling and rhythm through your body.
Should everyone, including people who don’t want to perform, take burlesque classes?
The average woman should definitely take classes because it’s great to feel great about your own body. Just do it. A lot of friends of friends come up to me and say, “I want to do burlesque.” Just do it – what’s holding you back?
Dakota Kim is a freelance writer and burlesque lover living in New York.
Photo credit: dollen, via Creative Commons
When we launched our Vesper pre-order campaign, we heard a lot of people say how much it reminded them of the sort of pen necklace Joan Holloway wears in Mad Men. While it wasn't intended as a direct homage, it's true that pens — like jewelry and sex toys — are really personal and intimate objects that must be "just right" as we use them everyday.Read More
With the eyes of the world on Kim Kardashian's "Break the Internet" magazine cover, and all things ass-related becoming a bit less taboo, we wanted to share a personal story about trying anal sex.
The first time I tried it was after my high school boyfriend’s good friends (a couple) raved about how great it was, how they did it all the time, especially if she was on her period. We did it in my basement, bent over a hideous, orange 70s couch. I can’t remember if my parents were home upstairs, but I seriously hope not.Read More
We’re excited to announce that after a successful pre-order period, the Vesper is officially available for purchase on our site! We have been overwhelmed by the incredible response we have received for Vesper and we think Cosmo captured the spirit of it all when they wrote:
“It's pretty bad-ass to wear evidence of taking charge of your own sexual pleasure. Walking around wearing a vibrator necklace is a great way to say ‘I'm here, I masturbate, and I'm proud of that’.”
But what has been most exciting for us is seeing how some of the early Vesper backers are choosing to openly embrace their sexuality and pleasure by posting photos to social media wearing their new Vesper out to dinner, to the office and in the bedroom. These women and images have inspired us to run a fun Vesper photo contest on social media, as we’d like to encourage others to follow their lead.
We’ll be choosing 3 grand prize winners and giving them each a $250 shopping spree on the Crave website!
How to Enter:
1. Snap a photo of yourself wearing your Vesper. We’re looking for photos that offer a unique, fun and sexy take on Vesper style. For instance, are you a lady in the street but a freak in the sheets? Show us!
2. Post it to Instagram, Facebook or Twitter with #vesperstyle. Get inspiration here. Also, make sure your accounts are set to public and you follow us (Instagram @lovecrave, Twitter @followcrave, facebook.com/likecrave).
That’s all you have to do! Remember, the Vesper was designed to be as private or public as you’d like. But if you do choose to wear it out, we’d love to see it.
Don’t have a Vesper yet? Buy yours here.
I can whip up some excellent party decorations and bake a mean boozy pie, but creativity at Halloween sometimes just means pulling the sexiest role playing costume out of my closet and calling it a night. Latex dominatrix? Check. Sexy cowgirl? I've got it. Modern Lolita in ruffles and lace? That's only the beginning.Read More
Halloween is right around the corner and I'm getting a sugar rush just thinking about all the sweets that will be floating around the office, and on sale the day after for naughty grownups like myself. When it comes to sexy candy, I've never been one for chocolate body paint or edible panties, but with a strong oral fixation, I love to suck and play with the sweet things that fill this season.Read More